Relationships/ reflections
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               In a relationship it means being equal with one another. showing respect to one another at all times. letting the individual know how much you are their for them is very important as well. Equality In a relationship means well " Equality " can sometimes means different things such as being defined , relationships is often a little complicated. Relationships flow as the two couples flow as people's and their needs, Interest,and desires change over time or maybe soon as even daily.but what I have found out in some of my own personal relationships is  that , however you and your spouse or partner define the " Equality ". whatever the two decide on what they mean as being equal, whatever that would help their relationship to grow and be strong. to me in a relation equality does matter no matter what. if a person is in a one sided relationship/abusive relationship it means that one person has power and also consider to have a one track mind, not allowing the other person to have a relationship.

In a relationship , usually both partners share some common interests and are able to enjoy activities together. doing things that the both enjoy doing together is well and it makes the relationship stronger, even last longer. but also, with doing that it does not allow the individual to have its own separate interest, too!  Ina equal relationship , partners can enjoy doing things together while respecting each others desires to pursue  other interests as well. which may includes hobbies, hanging out with friends, or whatever makes the couple happy.
 being in a relationship you also find out the challenges in a relationship as far as who would pay the bill. do you want to pay the bills ? what religion are you ? etc. from my experience, I have learned that in the early part of the relationship it is a must to find out the persons likes,  dislikes, religion, and rather if they are open to help with finances. these things matter in a relationship. this also helps you to find out rather you are comparable or not. In one of my relationships I had to learn the hard way when it came down to the finance part of the relationship. some men feel that they want to pay what they want and not what they need, which is not fair. yes, I know that can both both ways. Money can be a real problem in the relationship. Even though discussing money might feel awkward, it is a necessary conversation. deciding on who gonna pay what and what is the amount to pay would keep down confusion in the relationship when it comes to finances. However you and your partner choose to divide ( or not to divide ) paying for things like dates, family events, bills, and gifts. these things need to have a limitation on it and decide who's gonna pay.

also, In a relationship it all the time needs to be respect . this is important in a healthy ,equal relationship. feeling " Safe " , is important too. the two people who are in the relationship shouldn't feel as if their life is in danger at any time. know one in the relationship should feel that their opinion should put them in any danger. both parties I have learned should be able to express how they feel and think to their partner. if expressing the things you like and sharing your thoughts brings your partner into a rage and a unhealthy situation, this here alone throws up a " Red Flag ".
dealing with working in the Early Child Hood profession, It can sometimes bring stress into the relationship. within my  personal relation, it sometimes allow me to bring stress, dealing with kids,and their family can sometimes put you in a situation that allows you to feel drained. in my relationship their are times when i get with my spouse, it causes me to bring out my frustration on him. but dealing with this, I allow myself to calm down have me some me time, and then apologize and make up. accepting your wrong doing in a relationship and apologizing for it shows your partner that you can admit when you are wrong. this makes a healthy and long relationship between the two.